This essay is part of a series concerning the Coronavirus pandemic. Read more from the collection here.
The emergence and rapid spread of coronavirus (COVID-19) has been threatening the world’s order, stability, and well-being. Many cities and countries are now under lockdown; many people have been infected, and many have died. The world’s economies are threatened.
To what extent is it possible to flourish amidst this pandemic?
There will inevitably be painful losses of health, of lives, of livelihoods, and of much that we hold dear. While we must do what we can to prevent or mitigate these, we must also accept that there will, despite our best efforts, still be terrible losses. We must prepare for these. However, we can also look for other ways to flourish, even during this time of uncertainty, difficulty, and loss. Doing so will better help us—on a personal and societal level—to overcome this crisis.
Our model of flourishing at the Human Flourishing Program at Harvard acknowledges that health-related and economic aspects of life are central and important. Yet there are other important dimensions to flourishing as well: meaning and purpose, character and virtue, close social relationships, and happiness. We can still pursue these in various ways, even during these very difficult times.
In one of our recent research posts, we described how research indicates that volunteering and helping others are an especially powerful pathway to enhancing meaning and purpose. Regular group volunteering activities may be more challenging during this time when large group gatherings are being discouraged. However, there are still numerous opportunities to help those around you. A neighbor in my townhouse association recently volunteered to pick up groceries for others, so that the elderly residents, for whom the virus seems particularly deadly, would not be exposed. You can find similar ways to help those around you, increasing your sense of purpose and meaning while shaping your habits towards kindness, helpfulness, and generosity.
Further reflection upon right action and generosity towards others likewise calls into question the practice of hoarding food and resources for oneself, potentially resulting in systemic distributional failures. Instead, we should acquire only what is reasonably needed for ourselves and our family. This will ensure shelves are not empty.
Considering others in this way is not easy. It requires us to embody principles of love and generosity toward others. Acting in this way helps us develop the virtues that are important for both our own flourishing and that of our communities.
During these challenging times, you can also seek to flourish by strengthening your relationships and friendships. This too is not entirely straightforward while “social distancing” policies are being put in place. However, if you live with family or friends, this can be a good time to invest—in a child, or a spouse, or a housemate—in ways that may not have been possible before, or which could not previously take place due to lack of time.
You can also use the extra time confined at home to call a friend or a relative who you may have been out of touch with for a while. Call up a parent, or a grandparent. While some of the best public advice is for those over age seventy to self-isolate, this does not have to mean losing touch. Call regularly; use technologies and video calls that allow you to see each other’s face; offer to deliver groceries or other necessities if nearby, while still avoiding unnecessary contact. Start making it a habit to connect.
Furthermore, you can use the time that is available to reflect more generally on your relationships. Are there any friendships that could be strengthened at a distance? Are there any relationships that are in need of reconciliation or forgiveness? Patterns of bitterness and resentment can hinder one’s relationships and undermine one’s own well-being. There are helpful resources that can be used to work through the process of forgiveness. This may be a good time to do so. All of these things might enhance close relationships.
There are also practices that can contribute to happiness, which for many seems particularly elusive at present. For example, there is considerable evidence that writing down (or sharing with others) three things for which you are grateful, three times a week, can considerably improve life satisfaction and alleviate depressive symptoms. You might consider doing this on the phone with friends or elderly relatives who may otherwise be isolated. Regularly practicing acts of kindness towards others likewise has been shown, even in randomized trials, to improve happiness.
We have recently published a brief guide to evidence-based activities to improve various aspects of flourishing. Many of these, the evidence suggests, contribute to happiness and life satisfaction.
While various institutional pathways to flourishing—such as family, education, work, and religious community—are likewise under threat, there is much that can still be done. Schools and universities have found creative ways to carry out teaching online. Parents are making efforts to teach their young children at home. Workplaces have found ways to work remotely. While many churches, synagogues, and mosques have now suspended their services, this can provide an opportunity for increased personal devotions and prayer or new practices of family religious ritual.
Facing Suffering and Hardships
While there are things that can be done to enhance various aspects of flourishing in one’s life, the present time will still be challenging. There will be losses. Six months from now many of us may have lost a loved one. Many will have lost their jobs and a good deal of their savings. Loss will be inevitable. There will be suffering.
Suffering is not necessarily the opposite of flourishing. Suffering entails the experience of the loss of something good. It is painful. A holistic approach to flourishing requires a way to deal with and to confront the suffering that we will inevitably experience.
While our research on suffering at the Human Flourishing Program at Harvard is still in its infancy, we have begun collecting data on suffering from over 1,200 factory workers in Sri Lanka and from over 5,000 international flights attendants. Our goal is to better understand how suffering relates to and affects flourishing over time. While there is, unsurprisingly, a negative correlation between the flourishing measures and the suffering measures in the data, that correlation, in fact, turns out to be relatively weak. It is possible, at least to some extent, to flourish amidst suffering.
In the midst of suffering, we can still find ways to respond that promote at least some aspects of flourishing. We can respond to suffering by trying to understand the situation and by acknowledging the loss; by turning to others in our communities for support and comfort; by re-evaluating our values, desires, and purposes; by trying to find new meaning and opportunities for growth amidst suffering; by eventually trying to adjust to the circumstances, regain the good that was lost, or find new ways forward.
The theological traditions we draw upon in some of our own work suggest that suffering can be viewed as an opportunity for growth, a sacrificing of the good that was lost for a greater orientation towards the transcendent and divine. However, all of these responses must acknowledge the reality of the suffering itself, the loss of something good or someone loved. The suffering that the present pandemic has brought about, and will bring about, is very real. We must remember that both are true: there will be suffering, and there will be opportunities to flourish amidst the loss and pain.
Reflecting on Life
Our confrontation with suffering and death provides an important opportunity for reflection. What is it that we value most? What relationships might be in need of forgiveness or reconciliation? How is it that we are to understand our lives and our own mortality? These are not easy questions. For these, we must turn away from the data. We must turn toward our interior life, to those around us who are wise, to our rich theological and philosophical traditions, to try, as best as possible, to discern what it is that matters most.
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